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We were grabbing a bite of lunch at a small cafe, in a mall, right across from a booth that sold jewelry and where ears could be pierced for a fee. A mother approaches with a little girl of six or seven years old. The little girl is clearly stating that she doesn’t want her ears pierced, that’s she’s afraid of how much it will hurt, that she doesn’t like earrings much in the first place. Her protests, her clear ‘no’ is simply not heard. The mother and two other women, who work the booth, begin chatting and trying to engage the little girl in picking out a pair of earrings. She has to wear a particular kind when the piercing is first done but she could pick out a fun pair for later.

"I don’t want my ears pierced."

"I don’t want any earrings."

The three adults glance at each other conspiratorially and now the pressure really begins. She will look so nice, all the other girls she knows wear earrings, the pain isn’t bad.

She, the child, sees what’s coming and starts crying. As the adults up the volume so does she, she’s crying and emitting a low wail at the same time. “I DON’T WANT MY EARS PIERCED.”

Her mother leans down and speaks to her, quietly but strongly, the only words we could hear were ‘… embarrassing me.’

We heard, then, two small screams, when the ears were pierced.

Little children learn early and often that ‘no doesn’t mean no.’

Little children learn early that no one will stand with them, even the two old men looking horrified at the events from the cafeteria.

Little girls learn early and often that their will is not their own.

No means no, yeah, right.

Most often, for kids and others without power, ”no means force.”

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from "No Means Force" at Dave Hingsburger’s blog.

This is important. It doesn’t just apply to little girls and other children, though it often begins there.

For the marginalized, our “no’s” are discounted as frivolous protests, rebelliousness, or anger issues, or we don’t know what we’re talking about, or we don’t understand what’s happening.

When “no means force” we become afraid to say no.

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victoriousvocabulary:

BELLICOSE

[adjective]

inclined or eager to fight; aggressively hostile; belligerent; pugnacious.

Etymology: late Middle English < Latin bellicōsus, equivalent tobellic(us), ”pertaining to war”.

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" Start ignoring people who threaten your joy.
Literally, ignore them.
Say nothing.
Don’t invite any parts of them into your space. "

- Alex Elle (via milosop)

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takealookatyourlife:

This is hilarious in the darkest way because this tree is holding the dead corpse of one of the other trees

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cosmictuesdays:

nadiacreek:

coelasquid:

deformutilated:

Fudge recipe on a headstone

I feel like I should make this just to be able to say a dead person taught me how to make it. Maybe I’ll do it for Halloween.

I desperately hope that she spent her entire life telling people that they could have her fudge recipe “over my dead body.”

That last comment is absolutely worth reblogging.

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If it seems like I’m cutting people out via social media means or not responding to texts, PMS, calls or various other ways of contact as my ways of coping method:

I am. I need to. I’m working on some stuff. I need to filter out certain things so I can think clearly for a bit.

It’s no lack of love to any of you if you’ve been blocked somewhere, unfollowed, or unfriended. I just need some space to figure out some important stuff without other things in my face.

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harrysde:

From Elon James White Tuesday night.

This better have hundreds of thousands of notes at the end of the day or else

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" It’s a lot easier to be angry at someone than it is to tell them you’re hurt. "

- Tom Gates (via pythons)

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